What's This all About?

As a SAHM, (hopefully soon a WAHM) I am with my children 24 hours every day with very few breaks. With a toddler and preschooler, that is A LOT of work! My son has Asperger's and that in itself is a handful to deal with. Sometimes I wonder if this stay at home thing is for me. I said that to a "friend" of mine once. Her response? "How could you not love every minute of it?" She had been a SAHM as well, but unlike me, she really did enjoy every minute of it (according to her). As she continued to tell me how wonderful it was for her, I began to feel like total crap. Was there something wrong with me? Later, I realized that there's nothing wrong with me at all. I love my children and care for them just as much as she does hers. Just because mine make me want to rip my hair out and scream at times, does NOT make me a bad mom. Some days I really hate (is that too strong?) being here ALL DAY LONG, EVERYDAY. Then others I can't imagine doing anything else. All I needed from that friend was an ear and some support, but was left feeling inadequate and selfish. Why do mommies do this to each other? If we can't be there for one another, then who else do we have who will really understand. I don't for one minute believe that this friend of mine has never prayed "Dear God, please make this kid stop screaming before I go insane!" I believe that she thought to admit that would be equal to admitting that she is weak,not a good mom, etc. So, my goal for this blog is this: All Mommies Unite! Well, maybe that's asking a little too much. Ok, how about I will be honest about my struggles and hope that by doing so, I will help at least one mother not feel so inadequate or alone. All I ask is that being respectful to me and any posters, be top priority. Anyone is welcome, not just moms! My blogs will not be full of complaints! I have plenty of wonderful moments too. I just think that it is time for women, especially moms, to unite and support one another.

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Praise for Those Before Me

For the past few days, it seems that everything that can go wrong has and everything that can break has broken.  I just had a strut replaced on my vehicle after already replacing the fuel pump and alternator.  Friday, it decided that it wanted to play with me some more and now needs a water pump and radiator.  The plumbing in our house has been backing up every time I use the washing machine so I've been having to hand wash items that we need as we need them.  In addition, our 2 yr old 50" plasma TV has been damaged by a power surge.  What is ironic is that it was plugged into a surge protector.  We aren't sure of the extent of the damage yet because we have it locked onto the wall and we can't find the key to the lock (surprise, surprise!).  The surge protector was connected to a 3 prong adaptor which was melted by the power surge.  Thankfully we were home and the house didn't burn down! 

Because of all of this I have been very stressed out.  Then I started thinking.  These "hardships" are really nothing but inconveniences.  So many generations before us had much less than we have available to us.  And yet somehow they survived.  Things could be so much worse.  I have so much respect for the people who have lived through REAL hardship so that I could eventually live with so many conveniences.  However, I do wish I could get one of those washboards they used.....

What helps keep you sane when faced with challenges?
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  1. thepunkrockmomJuly 30, 2010 at 6:35 PM

    Girl, I have had so many days like that, so you know you have company in me! And I definitely know about hand washing dishes! It can be so annoying (we don't have a dish washer :O lol) but I keep a soapy sink all day and just put the dishes in there as I go. Then when the kids are napping or in bed, I'll wash them and just try to make it a quite time for me and my thoughts. Sometimes this works, and sometimes I'm still super annoyed! :P

    I know how it is to have one thing happen after another that really gets you down. And I so appreciate your good attitude about it! I wish more people were thoughtful like you. The world would be a better place if that were the case! I have the same thought when I start to get down- things could always be worse- remember your blessings.

    LOL abt the washboard!!! That would be great, but then Bruce would probably make me use it so we don't have to use the washer!!! LOL!!!

    Things I do to try to stay sane lately are starting and ending my day with Jesus. I do some devotions in the morning, pray continually throughout the day and praise him for small favors ;). I also feel very relaxed and fall asleep so fast when I just silently pray to him about my day when I crawl into bed. When I have struggles, I seek out scripture and poetry from different religions that give me strength and calm my mind. Try Rami, his poetry is so beautiful and soothing.
    Also, deep breathing makes a huge difference! Just try to deep breathe until you forget you're even doing it, and it will help relax you. It gets all kinds of good oxygen and chemical reactions going on in the brain :)
    Aromatherapy oils and sprays are great too! Also, get this stuff called Rescue Remedy from GNC. You can put a few drops on your tongue or put it in a spray bottle and mist yourself with it. It's this natural calming stuff. I love it!
    Hope this helps! Praying for you and your beautiful family!
    <3MaryAnne

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  2. thepunkrockmomAugust 3, 2010 at 8:31 PM

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